top of page

15 Counterintuitive EQ Habits (That Actually Work)

Carolyn Frost
Dr. Carolyn Frost

Ever notice how some people seem to navigate life's complexities with a quiet grace?

 

They're not superhuman.

They're not perfect.

 

They've just mastered something most of us overlook.

 

Here's what I've learned:

 

The difference between surviving and thriving isn't in your achievements.

 

It's in your emotional intelligence

 




✨ I N S P I R E


"What really matters for success, character, happiness and life long achievements is a definite set of emotional skills - your EQ."

- Daniel Goleman



✨ T H R I V E


High EQ isn't something you're born with.


It's built in small moments.


Here are 15 unexpected truths + tiny habits that boost emotional intelligence:


1.) The most emotionally intelligent response is often silence.

↳ Wait 5 sec before responding in heated moments



2.) What bothers you most in others reveals your own work.

↳ List 3 pet peeves and ask: "When am I this person?"


3.) High empathy w/o boundaries becomes self-sabotage.

↳ Create a "not my responsibility" list


4.) True EQ is handling rejection gracefully, not success.

↳ Practice saying "thank you for your feedback" without defending


5.) Real EQ means choosing honest over comfortable.

↳ Have one difficult conversation you've been avoiding today


6.) The better you read people, the more alone time you need.

↳ Create a "recharge ritual" after intense interactions

↳ Try: 2 min walk + 3 deep breaths


7.) Your EQ drops when you're hungry, tired, or stressed.

↳ Postpone emotional decisions before lunch and after 9pm


8.) High EQ's shadow side is perfectionism.

↳ Practice GETMO: Good Enough To Move On 🙌🏼


9.) Being emotionally aware with yourself is harder than with others.

↳ Practice naming feelings without attaching to them

↳ "Oh, anger is here" (Not, "I'm angry")


10.) Reading fiction builds EQ better than self-help books.

↳ Read one fiction chapter before bed tonight


11.) Spotting manipulation is easier, and harder to ignore.

↳ Create a phrase for setting instant boundaries

↳ My fav: "Let's press pause here"


12.) Most people don't want solutions - they want to be heard.

↳ Replace "I would...", with "What options are you considering?"


13.) It's not about never losing control - it's about recovering quickly.

↳ 1-min reset: three 4-7-8 breaths. Roll shoulders back.

Whisper 'Reset Complete'.


14.) You can't control others' emotions, only your response.

↳ List what's actually in your control during conflicts. Focus there.


15.) Authenticity matters more than being liked.

↳ Notice when you're performing vs being genuine

↳ Who are you with, where are you, what are you talking about?


Your edge isn't inherited.

It's built one conscious moment at a time.


Have a beautiful week friends ✨

Carolyn


PS ~ Join 150,000+ AMAZING people getting daily tips like this to live a happy, healthy, intentional life

 

PPS ~ Know someone who needs permission to unplug? Forward this to:

→ The friend who's always "on call" for work

→ That colleague who checks email at midnight

→ Anyone struggling with digital boundaries

→ The high achiever who needs a reminder to recharge


 

 

Join a select group of professionals who are choosing depth over distraction, presence over pressure.

 

This isn't about adding more to your plate.

 

This is about mastering what matters most.

 


  • The EQ advantage in leadership and life

  • Relationship mastery at work and home

  • The science of sustainable success

  • Advanced emotional regulation toolkit

  • Strategic energy management

  • Connection over credentials mindset

 

Stop managing time.

 

Start mastering energy.

 

Related Posts

See All
bottom of page